Mistress160's BDSM For Beginners

WELCOME TO THE EDUCATIONAL SECTION OF MS160'S ABODE!

"Smart, funny and very wicked" Mistress160's "excellent" blog "offers education, sensuality, testimonials from subs + a wide array of [educational] resources suitable for everyone interested in BDSM (from connoisseur to novice)"

Education is very important to me, and as many visitors to my blog come specifically for my BDSM For Beginners series I thought I would copy the series - and other BDSM educational material - onto this blog, so that you can find everything a little more easily.

How do you use this blog? First, read my What is this blog about? post. Then check out the "What sort of info do you need?" list under this one, to see if any of the topics mentioned are of interest. Follow the links if so. You can also run your eye down the detailed Labels list. If you would like me to cover something specific in the BDSM For Beginners series, please drop me a line in the cbox below :).

Because I am part of the kinky community in Australia the blog often promotes local educational events here in Oz. However I'm happy to promote any educational / kinky events readers bring to my attention.

You can return to Mistress160's Abode here. You can also visit my new blog on Kink Culture here.

WHAT SORT OF INFO DO YOU NEED???? HERE ARE SOME OF MS160'S MOST POPULAR POSTS:

INFO ABOUT GOING REAL TIME:
Finding your Local Scene
Attending Your First Play Party
Attending a Femdom Tea Party
Attending your First Munch
The BDSM Safe Call / Silent Alarm System - read this before meeting any strangers for play

Also:
First Contact (searching for "fine folk who understand")
(a post about attending your first ever scene event)


INFO ABOUT PLAYING ONLINE:
How to find an online Dominant
Online resources for kinksters
D/s cam play
How to cope with online disappearances
Online courses (learn how to play online)
Computer Aided Submission
Ms160 plays online with Gemini and Secret Pet

SUFFERING SUBDROP AFTER PLAYING ONLINE? READ THIS EMERGENCY AFTERCARE POST

JUST STARTING TO PLAY? TRY THESE IDEAS:
NOTE: The Practicalities of Play (For New Dominants) series has been taken down pending an intellectual property dispute (someone is trying to publish them in their own name) so drop me a line if you want to discuss any of these things. I also run a "D/s for New Dominants" workshop that covers them.
Practicalities of play: Finding a play partner
Practicalities of play: Creating a play space and a toy box
Practicalities of play: Learning to play
Practicalities of play: How to run a scene
Practicalities of play: Dressing dominant
Practicalities of play: D/s techniques for new dominants

TOY BOX POSTS:
We like to make our own toys cheaply - if you are similarly inclined, check out the posts listed under "pervertables" on Mistress160's Abode :)
Other posts that might interest you:
What you need in your kinky toybox!
What's in our toy box
Green toys for eco friendly kinksters
Strap On Play - info on harnesses + how to use + References + Online Resources List
Shopping for a vibrator
The Ball Presenter - vertical and horizontal

BASIC BDSM AND D/s TECHNIQUE POSTS:
Anal play - Enema play
Anal play - strap on sex here here here
Queening (+ here)
Cunnilingus
Temperature play (ice play + fire play + wax play + References + Online Resources List)
Tease & Denial posts ( a story / The Chastity Interviews / Greyhound bus scene / The Coming Game scene)
Erotic humiliation
Figging
How to play with clamps
Puppy play
Outdoor play
Info on aftercare (IMPORTANT)

ADVANCED BDSM TECHNIQUE POSTS:
Caning
Caning - References +Online Resources List
Suspension
Watersports for beginners (+ here)
Objectification
Saline Infusions
Flogging
Superglue
Staples

EDGEPLAY POSTS:
Organizing a sub hunt
Sub hunting, everything you wanted to know about (incl: References + Online Resources List)
Nipple needle torture
Ball kicking
Chemical play also a CBT Dencorub scene
Chemical play - References + Online Resources List
Urethral play (with sounds + References + Online Resources List)
Sounding - using a Vibrating sound
Electrical play
Electrical play - playing with electric fly swatters
Body modification (electro cautery branding)
Body modification (cutting + strike branding)
Body modification (sparkler branding)
Body modification (Prince Albert piercing)
Body modification (temporary needle play)
Body modification (CBT needle play) also a really hot scene here.
Single tail play (+ here)
Fire play + Fire cupping
Sparkler play
Knife play / cutting (forthcoming)
Stapling
Blood play (also in this scene)
Blood cupping
Quilling (background) and a quilling scene
(Ms160 now has a separate Edgeplay blog, drop her a line if you'd like access)

Ms160 POSTS ABOUT BEING KINKY:
*Losing your D/s partner
(surviving funerals and broken power dynamics)
*"This is science, right?": musings on BDSM and mainstream interactions
*Gifts of Commitment and Friendship
(the importance of real time kinky friendships)
*Confronting the confronting
(why we find the horrific a turn on)
*Becoming dominant + Becoming Ms160
+ Sol's masochism (+ here)
(Becoming who we are)
*ADD + BDSM
(an interesting discussion)

“If I was to direct any novice to a BDSM blog, I’d direct them to Mistress160...

"One seldom finds a blog that offers educational guides for people wanting to explore their kinky side, namely BDSM … Mistress160’s Abode offers education, sensuality, testimonials (from subs) and a wide array of resources suitable for everyone interested in BDSM (from connoisseur to novice).

"On the subject of information, Mistress160 has an array of "BDSM for Beginners" posts that discuss just about everything, from meeting like minded people to accessory selection [you will find a list of titles in the LABELS list below]. The resources that Mistress160 uses are extensive, and kudos to her…"
(for complete review see Dark Scribe, 3 March 2007)

"This is a particularly excellent blog for beginners to BDSM. In fact, Ms160 has a phenomenal series created especially for beginners with more information in one place than I’ve ever really seen. Good stuff folks. Give her a look"
Carrie Ann A View From the Floor "Blogs I Love"

"Just wanted to thank you for what you've done with your blog and with Fetish Lore ... you manage to present everything in a comfortable, matter-of-fact way that really helped [my wife] ... both sites have helped because they give us a nice touchstone, and a place to ask questions in a newbie friendly environment ... I don't know how often you hear this, but for these two "beginners," we wouldn't be half as on the ball without your blog"
Belisarius, Nov 2007 (quoted with permission)

Thanks for all you do for the promotion of what I think of as "good kink," and your love of us subbies. It means more than you know"
Quietlisten, Jan 2008 (quoted with permission)

"Thanks to Mistress160 for hosting [at her Forced Fem group on MDS] and for her wonderful articles on how to meet a Dom/me. Comfy, warm, well-lit places where one feels safe and at home can be hard to find on the 'net, but it seems wherever Mistress160 goes, that's what you'll find. Okay, enough gushing... Mistress160 rules! Oh, wait, sorry... end of gushing, I swear"
Quietlisten Jan 2008 Forced Fem group Intros

"Mistress160 ... runs what is probably the best informational blog about BDSM in the entire region, and has been doing so for quite a while"
maymay April 2008 Maybe Maimed But Never Harmed

"You've helped me overcome a choking fear of myself. I can think about all of the kinky ideas that I've dreamed about, without having an anxiety attack of worry"
copper 3 May 08

"Thanks for the great info on drop, both for tops and bottoms. Its helped me and my exsub through a painful breakup, and may have saved our friendship."
Unen Theilmytholen 14 Sept 08 via cbox

My sincere thanks for a very informative site ... even a quick look around gave me tonnes of new ideas to try on my sub boy! Where do you get all these wonderful ideas? [When] stress and tiredness slow down [my imagination] I can always tap into your cornucopia of ideas!
MsD 31 Dec 08 c box

"I remain amazed at the diversity you two exhibit! That blog had me thinking very nasty thoughts Ms160... sol is a lucky guy to have such a deliciously deviant Domme!"
billc393 - CollarNcuffs forum (Jan 2009)

Mistress 160's blog is excellent and a really good resource. One that Owner and i found very helpful and informative when we were first starting out a few years back, and she is a wonderful person too. Very envious of the lovely place her and sol have.
poppet's blog - comments (May 2009)

KINKY AND LIVING IN OZ?

Check out the Australian Kink Events Calendar to keep you in touch with what's happening on our local scene - all States and Territories covered :) !

MS160's EDUCATIONAL PROGRAMS:

"well thought out, well written, and highly valuable ... the class had a profound impact on me and my self-perception ... your blending of sexual imagery with commands during the lessons was exquisite" (QL)

"this course has shown me that it is possible to do things i otherwise would have never done ... you will always have a place in my heart" (t)

Ms160 offers real time workshops and retreats, as well as online educational programs open to all kinky orientations. You'll find all the details on the new BDSM Education page :)

WANT TO ENTER ONE OF MISTRESS160's PHOTO CONTESTS (photo above)?

We have enormous fun!

Ms160 holds photo contests for male subs at her Forced Feminization group at My Dungeon Space. You will need to be a member of the group to enter the contest: join MyDungeonSpace for free, and then join Ms160's Forced Fem group.